“Fiction gives us empathy: it puts us inside the minds of other people, gives us the gifts of seeing the world through their eyes. Fiction is a lie that tells us true things, over and over.”—Neil Gaiman- Fahrenheit 451 Introduction (via dortheaisles)
A former Oakland Raiders spouse on the Rice scandal and the league’s culture of secrecy.
There’s a lot in the news right about former Ravens running back Ray Rice — a man who was caught in the act of being physically abusive to his wife. But despite all of the media attention, it’s an outrage that is unfortunately easy to gloss over. One — it’s about sports, and a vociferously American one at that. Two — it’s about domestic abuse, which is a topic that gets swept under the rug far, far too often.
I urge you — if you have the spoons — to take a moment and read this.
But this article, written by a former NFL wife, gives voice to an understanding that no one but another NFL wife can have.
And I’m sure that sort of thing was going through Janay’s mind: If I tell, and if I take away their best running back, and they lose on Sunday, that’s my fault. I did that. I set that ball in motion. This is what she was risking: embarrassing the Ravens, embarrassing her family, screwing his teammates out of their prized running back, losing money, losing security. Janay was under an incredible amount of pressure. She probably thought to be quiet was to make this go away. Because she needs it to go away.
It demonstrates the pain and suffering — the self-loathing — that any abused individual can and often does experience, and compounds it with the reality of the stress and severe emotional manipulation that happens to the spouses of professional athletes. It’s completely unacceptable that spouses are treated this way — that this culture even exists — but it does, and it needs to be recognised, acknowledged, and talked about.
Terminating Ray Rice was the right decision for the Baltimore Ravens. The investigation that could potentially cost Commissioner Goodell his job matters. A no tolerance policy for cases of domestic violence would be an excellent step forward. But what the league needs, what every single professional sports organisation needs is fierce fucking reform of the whole culture.
You’ll be better and you’ll be smarter And more grown up and a better daughter or son And a real good friend And you’ll be awake, you’ll be alert You’ll be positive though it hurts And you’ll laugh and embrace all your friends You’ll be a real good listener You’ll be honest, you’ll be brave You’ll be handsome and you’ll be beautiful You’ll be happy
tl;dr in missouri, if someone rapes you, you must wait a minimum of 72 hours after informing a doctor, regardless of your financial situation, health, or access to a clinic in which abortions are provided, before you can get the help that you need.
just in case you were labouring under any delusions about the value of dfab people to the lawmakers in missouri. the answer, obviously, is none. nothing. absolute void. giving an egg a little extra time to find a home in someone’s uterus and potentially become person (if the fertilised egg subsequently develops into a white cis het male, of course) is of more value than the individual in which that egg resides.
editorial frothing: be careful as you click through links, if you do. the comments reporters provide are often incredibly triggering — relevant, obviously, but also hateful. there’s a blatant bias towards statements addressing how the lack of a rape/incest exception is the truly disgusting aspect of this entire nightmare, or how this is about someone’s right to choose their own reproductive healthcare. there’s very little acknowledgement of what this law truly demonstrates — that in the theocratic unites states, a dfab individual is inherently of less or no value than a cis dmab person. a pregnant person is effectively an owned reproductive machine of the state.
…net neutrality is in jeopardy. Net Neutrality is the principle that says ISPs can’t discriminate between different types of traffic.
That means that…
…whether you’re a bedroom music producer, a couple on an amateur porn site, or just someone with a start up idea - you get access to the same users as Netflix, Facebook or Amazon. On the Internet, anyone can succeed.
…America’s ISPs wanna set up a pay-for-play system where rich companies pay extra to get to those users first.
If this happens…
…instead of a wonderful playground if innovation that it is now, the Internet will become like cable TV where you can only get stuff that’s been pre-approved by a bunch of old rich guys.
Ten years from now…
…your Internet bill could be a bigger “fustercluck” than your cable bill.
Now, you might be thinking…
…isn’t the government supposed to protect me from fragrant doucheholery like this?
…the former chairman of the FCC (government agency that’s SUPPOSED to protect you) is now the cable industry’s head lobbyist. And another former cable industry lobbyist is now the CURRENT head of the FCC.
…we can’t trust the FCC to make the right decision on their own. That’s why WE need to protect the Internet we love. The chaotic, AWESOME, often quite weird, place where literally everyone’s voice can be heard.
In a few months…
…the FCC will approve this festering soal of proposal unless we speak up. The Internet is one of the few places where human voices speak louder than money. So while that’s still the case, let’s use those voices. Go to DEARFCC.ORG and tell them to protect Net Neutrality. Thanks for doing your part to protect the Internet.
I'm confused about what Beethoven was doing in the black composers post. He was German.
By golly gee! I keep forgetting that Black people didn’t exist until the Fresh Prince of Bel Air came on television! Or that Black people existed in anywhere else than Africa even with slavery going on :) My apologies.
Anyway, here’s proof that Beethoven was Black:
"… Said directly, Beethoven was a black man. Specifically, his mother was a Moor, that group of Muslim Northern Africans who conquered parts of Europe—making Spain their capital—for some 800 years.
In order to make such a substantial statement, presentation of verifiable evidence is compulsory. Let’s start with what some of Beethoven’s contemporaries and biographers say about his brown complexion:
"Frederick Hertz, German anthropologist, used these terms to describe him: ‘Negroid traits, dark skin, flat, thick nose.’
Emil Ludwig, in his book ‘Beethoven,’ says: ‘His face reveals no trace of the German. He was so dark that people dubbed him Spagnol [dark-skinned].’
Fanny Giannatasio del Rio, in her book ‘An Unrequited Love: An Episode in the Life of Beethoven,’ wrote ‘His somewhat flat broad nose and rather wide mouth, his small piercing eyes and swarthy [dark] complexion, pockmarked into the bargain, gave him a strong resemblance to a mulatto.’
Beethoven’s death mask: profile and full face
C. Czerny stated, ‘His beard—he had not shaved for several days—made the lower part of his already brown face still darker.’
Following are one word descriptions of Beethoven from various writers: Grillparzer, ‘dark’; Bettina von Armin, ‘brown’; Schindler, ‘red and brown’; Rellstab, ‘brownish’; Gelinek, ‘short, dark.’
In Alexander Thayer’s Life of Beethoven, vol.1, p. 134, the author states, “there is none of that obscurity which exalts one to write history as he would have it and not as it really was. The facts are too patent.” On this same page, he states that the German composer Franz Josef Haydn was referred to as a “Moor” by Prince Esterhazy, and Beethoven had “even more of the Moor in his looks.’ On p. 72, a Beethoven contemporary, Gottfried Fischer, describes him as round-nosed and of dark complexion. Also, he was called ‘der Spagnol’ (the Spaniard).
Other “patent” sources, of which there are many, include, but are not limited to, Beethoven by Maynard Solomon, p.78. He is described as having “thick, bristly coal-black hair” (in today’s parlance, we proudly call it ‘kinky’) and a ‘ruddy-complexioned face.’ In Beethoven: His Life and Times by Artes Orga, p.72, Beethoven’s pupil, Carl Czerny of the ‘School of Velocity’ fame, recalls that Beethoven’s ‘coal-black hair, cut a la Titus, stood up around his head [sounds almost like an Afro]. His black beard…darkened the lower part of his dark-complexioned face.’
Engraving by Blasius Hofel, Beethoven, 1814, color facsimile of engraving after a pencil drawing by Louis Letronne. This engraving was regarded in Beethoven’s circle as particularly lifelike. Beethoven himself thought highly of it, and gave several copies to his friends.